Recovering from Valentines Day

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For people who are with their soulmates, Valentine’s Day can be a non-issue. Every day feels like Valentine’s Day, and there are so many occasions – anniversary, holidays, birthdays – that not all need to be super special and some of the most romantic times arise unexpectedly.

Those who seem to suffer the most are people who don’t yet have their Valentine (and I would look at it THAT way – that your Valentine is on the way but not here yet). Why?

If you’re not with your valentine, you can feel left out. People around you might be getting flowers or going out but you’re not.

My Recommendations
1. Remind yourself that when your One comes along, it will make up for every single bad V. Day you’ve ever had. You’ll be too busy being happy to even remember this one.

2. Go ahead and further the “soul call” that I hope you’ve sent (if you do my work, you have) by buying a card or gift for the love of your life in advance. It’s an affirmation for what’s coming and it’s super fun to give your love this gift next year or even on your wedding day.

3. Affirm that by next Valentines Day, you will have romantic time with your One and be glad this year has passed.

For a bit of cheer, in the event youre still RECOVERING from this holiday, check out my uplifting Valentines Video by clicking the link to be reassured that love is on its way and youre FINE (the truth).

love,
Kathryn

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Saturday, February 26, 2011


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Boating in Barbados

I hope you had a great Valentine’s Day! As I write, were just ending our 2 weeks in Barbados, after enjoying Jamaica for 5 weeks. Next up is St Lucia, where well spend a month. I have to admit that exploring the Caribbean this winter is the best romantic gift a gal could ask for from her soulmate (thanks, honey!)

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The Eel

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The Eel

Some of the worst cases of attachment Ive seen come from people who got hooked by THE EEL.

Definition of The Eel: someone who seems in your grasp, but then slithers away just when you thought it was going somewhere, only to reappear again as you give up hope.

This is akin to the mouse-cheese experiment I talk about in my Releasing a Person CD. The mouse would hurt itself when sporadically offered the cheese, whereas both the mouse who regularly got cheese and who never got cheese accepted the situation calmly.

If you are being distracted by an eel, I invite you to adopt my rule concerning eels. Dont touch! Eels seem to somehow NEED to keep you dangling, and it can be terribly exciting playing this game, but it doesn’t produce a soulmate relationship.

My Advice: recognize when youre swimming after an eel and change course. Yes, letting go of the hope will hurt, but every time someone swims in a different direction while doing my work, they end up finding their soulmate quickly. If you keep your eye on the love ahead waiting for you, it will make the release much easier.

If you are in doubt about whether it can work out or not (and in most cases, you are simply in denial), I suggest this technique for seeing if this relationship is salvageable.

• When the suspected eel lets you down -- disappears, doesn’t call when (s)he says, suddenly wants to cool things down -- give him or her notice. You can do this playfully, so it doesn’t become heavy, but draw a boundary here. “Flakes are just not my favorite cereal, if you get my drift. I’m liable to brunch elsewhere if it gets too flaky around here.” This takes back your power, while keeping it light.

• Keep track with a three strike maximum limit. If eel-like behavior shows up three times, this is a trend. It’s too much to ignore. Unless you want to continue in a frustrating, uphill battle to make this person become reliable, I would bail at this point.

• Do some release work, and remind yourself that your soulmate will leave no doubt that they want to be with you and they will be even hotter to you than the eel has been.

Love & support,
Kathryn

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The Top 10 Love Fears 6 through 10

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In honor of Halloween approaching, its a perfect time to get SCARY!

In that spirit, below find the first 5 of the top 10 Love Fears -- and what to do about them.

Ill post the final 5 next week to round it out.




Top 10 Love Fears

What blocks so many people from finding love? Fear

Below are the first 5 of The 10 Greatest Fears that can keep love for you.


Fear 10

Youve missed the boat.

You worry that its too late for you to find love, that maybe the one that got away was your last chance for love or that youre doing something fatally wrong that has doomed you forever.

THE TRUTH: Until you meet someone with whom it never end, you have not yet found your soulmate, so you need to keep going. You have every hope for love and have not missed the boat. You get infinite do-overs until you get it right.

Fear 9

That there is something wrong with you.

95% of the people who come to my work fear that there is something wrong with them, that they have a Fatal Flaw. If this is you, youve blown up some minor thing into a huge repulsive nightmare that will send potential loves screaming from the room.

THE TRUTH: You are perfect right now. There is nothing wrong with you. Your soulmate will find things other loves thought were flaws -- cute. It wont bother them and will endear them to you.

Fear 8

Youre too old, too overweight, too sick, too depressed, too anything for love.

Whenever someone is blocked in love, theres usually some limited belief knocking around in their head about their chances for love. They fear that love has passed them by if theyre over some arbitrary age they deem is past the age for love. Or they think they have to lose lots of weight to be loved. Or they worry no one could love them because of some physical condition.

THE TRUTH: Love knows no boundaries like this. Lots of senior citizens find love -- especially in this work. And plenty of overweight folks, people with illness or physical conditions do, too. Your soulmate wants you for YOU. (S)he doesnt care about anything you belief dooms you in the love department.

Fear 7

Being unlovable

This is similar to Fear 8. You worry that something about you is so awful youre unlovable. Maybe your temper. Or your disposition. Or you dont think you are sexy enough. Or attractive enough. Usually anyone with this fear was criticized as a child. Its a self-esteem issue and is just not true.

THE TRUTH: You are lovable as you are now. Your soulmate will find you completely lovable and remind you over and over again of that fact. To expedite your Ones journey into your arms, practice loving yourself more and seeing why you are lovable (you are!)

Fear 6

Not ever finding love

People with this fear usually have been looking for love for a while with no success. Theyre ready to give up and worry theyll never find love. Theyre extrapolating past experience into the future, concluding love is just not in the cards for them.

THE TRUTH: If you want love, you get it. You got this desire for your soulmate put into your heart to propel you into his or her arms. God would never dangle something in front of you only to taunt you with it and never give it to you. You get this! We just need to work on opening you up on it and finding the hope to keep on moving forward.

NEXT WEEK
Ill post a blog with the remaining Top 10 love fears: the even more scary FIVE. So stay tuned. I will also disclose the ultimate antidote to fear!

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How to Make 2011 YOUR YEAR for Love!

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January 2011

Hi! Weve spending most of January and at least part of February in Jamaica, mon, and enjoying it! Right now, our all-inclusive resort has got us eating & doing too much, but its all fun and the weather cant be beat. Our eyebrows have all disappeared, and weve got tans, too.

Bringing on Love in 2011!

Are you determined that 2011 is the year you get your soulmate? Or at least hoping? There are ways to ENSURE that it is by doing some strong intention-setting and then backing that up with some changes.

1. Write down what you want in love. Get specific & do this with feeling. Decorate it, light a candle over this intention & bless it.

2. Send love to your One. This person you’re calling forth is out there now, living & breathing & looking for you, too. A soul call, an invitation to join you in your life, is quite powerful.

3. Get hopeful, eradicate blocks. You’re going to have to ensure that you’re open to love. If you’ve been cynical, find some faith that yes, you GET LOVE! (true) If you’re hanging on to a past love, let go into a vision of something better.

You have every hope for love and let’s get determined that this year is IT for you! I am with you.

We still have just a couple of spaces left in my FIRST EVER telecourse on love. Create-a-Mate entailed 4 classese by phone in February and March for the pupose of "creating" your mate. You ought to check it out just to get the incredible stories of people who have used this work to conjure up the love of their life!

Check it out here NOW to get in on it (its limited to just 50 people and about 45 spaces are already taken): www.kathrynalice.com/create-a-mate

We’ve Opened Enrollment for Our June 2011 Teacher Training

Our June 2011 Love Attraction Coach Training is now open for enrollment and quite a few of the spaces have been taken. This program gets more kudos than any other trainer training for its emphasis not only on schooling you in this magical material that has brought love to thousands but ALSO in making a career of it.

If you are looking for a fulfilling lucrative career that comes with setup, license and referrals, check out the training NOW. You can get an easy 5 payment program with a discount if you sign up before the end of January. Find out more here.

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The Danger of Dancing with an Eel

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You all are always asking me to write more about THE EEL -- heres a question about it to shed some more light on the topic.

Q: Kathryn, I think Im involved with an eel -- as you describe it -- and its worrying me.

"Joe" and I have been dancing around for about four years. He is super charming and comes on strong. Only to pull away the minute after we talk about getting serious.



I almost feel obsessed with him and no one holds a candle to him, in my opinion.

Should I try to really pin him down and find out? Or should I just hope that the light will come on, hell realize Im the One and finally be willing to get serious with me. I feel hes worth the wait.

A: It does sound like an eel situation, Im afraid to say:

Definition of The Eel: someone who seems in your grasp, but then slithers away just when you thought it was going somewhere, only to reappear again as you give up hope.

Often, the eel is charming and knows how to reel you in just enough that you cant let go.

And just when youre almost over them, they reel you in again.

They can sense when youre finally letting go, which is part of that phenomena of the release work I do.

After four years of your life, he should know if you are the One. Thats enough time of your life spent on him.

Id try one more time and tell him its now or never. And if he again pulls away, then this time, do anything you can to rid yourself of this attachment/obsession.

Remind yourself of how much happier youll be when youre in love with somone who cant wait to get a commitment from you.

Your soulmate will be hotter than the eel. And much less frustrating.

The truth is that I rarely meet someone who is dancing with an eel and is actually happy.

For many, dancing with an eel is a great way to remain single. Keeping yourself tied up with someone unavailable ensures you remain unavailable yourself.

I want more for you, and believe me when I say, theres much, much better for you ahead if you can just let go of this frustrating situation.

Im sending you love & support for getting clarity and moving on.

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