Unleash Your Online Power to Find Love

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My video series "Is Tinder Evil?" continues with two you dont want to miss.

They tell you how to avoid the ugly parts and harness the amazing power of dating apps to connect with the love of your life.

Yes, its possible!

Is Tinder Evil? The Ugly
How to avoid catfishing and the yuckiest part of online and app dating

Is Tinder Evil? How to USE IT BEST
These are the secrets on how to use Tinder and other dating apps to find the love of your life

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The Top 10 Love Fears 6 through 10

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In honor of Halloween approaching, its a perfect time to get SCARY!

In that spirit, below find the first 5 of the top 10 Love Fears -- and what to do about them.

Ill post the final 5 next week to round it out.




Top 10 Love Fears

What blocks so many people from finding love? Fear

Below are the first 5 of The 10 Greatest Fears that can keep love for you.


Fear 10

Youve missed the boat.

You worry that its too late for you to find love, that maybe the one that got away was your last chance for love or that youre doing something fatally wrong that has doomed you forever.

THE TRUTH: Until you meet someone with whom it never end, you have not yet found your soulmate, so you need to keep going. You have every hope for love and have not missed the boat. You get infinite do-overs until you get it right.

Fear 9

That there is something wrong with you.

95% of the people who come to my work fear that there is something wrong with them, that they have a Fatal Flaw. If this is you, youve blown up some minor thing into a huge repulsive nightmare that will send potential loves screaming from the room.

THE TRUTH: You are perfect right now. There is nothing wrong with you. Your soulmate will find things other loves thought were flaws -- cute. It wont bother them and will endear them to you.

Fear 8

Youre too old, too overweight, too sick, too depressed, too anything for love.

Whenever someone is blocked in love, theres usually some limited belief knocking around in their head about their chances for love. They fear that love has passed them by if theyre over some arbitrary age they deem is past the age for love. Or they think they have to lose lots of weight to be loved. Or they worry no one could love them because of some physical condition.

THE TRUTH: Love knows no boundaries like this. Lots of senior citizens find love -- especially in this work. And plenty of overweight folks, people with illness or physical conditions do, too. Your soulmate wants you for YOU. (S)he doesnt care about anything you belief dooms you in the love department.

Fear 7

Being unlovable

This is similar to Fear 8. You worry that something about you is so awful youre unlovable. Maybe your temper. Or your disposition. Or you dont think you are sexy enough. Or attractive enough. Usually anyone with this fear was criticized as a child. Its a self-esteem issue and is just not true.

THE TRUTH: You are lovable as you are now. Your soulmate will find you completely lovable and remind you over and over again of that fact. To expedite your Ones journey into your arms, practice loving yourself more and seeing why you are lovable (you are!)

Fear 6

Not ever finding love

People with this fear usually have been looking for love for a while with no success. Theyre ready to give up and worry theyll never find love. Theyre extrapolating past experience into the future, concluding love is just not in the cards for them.

THE TRUTH: If you want love, you get it. You got this desire for your soulmate put into your heart to propel you into his or her arms. God would never dangle something in front of you only to taunt you with it and never give it to you. You get this! We just need to work on opening you up on it and finding the hope to keep on moving forward.

NEXT WEEK
Ill post a blog with the remaining Top 10 love fears: the even more scary FIVE. So stay tuned. I will also disclose the ultimate antidote to fear!

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Should You Even Try to Win Your Ex Back

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In the first few days, even weeks, after your breakup, the only thing you can think about is how to get your ex back. Its understandable. Depending on how long the two of you were together, youve shared a lot of life. Its hard to just walk away and pretend it never happened.

The odds are good that your ex isnt walking off unaffected either. The only real difference is that your ex has been thinking about this for a while. People dont walk away from long-term-relationships on a whim. In other words, your ex has had a little more time to deal with the emotional side of the decision than you have.

If youre struggling to decide if the right choice is to walk away or fight to get your ex back, these questions should help you decide.

Is the Love Still There?

This is a huge question you need to know the answer to before you make a single step to try and win your ex back. While you can only guess about how your ex really feels, you can, and should, explore your own feelings in depth before making your next move. If the love isnt really there, you should not waste your time and energy, or that of your ex, trying to rekindle something thats simply not there anymore.

Is the Relationship You Had Truly Worth Rehashing?

Most relationships have their shares of ups and downs. Successful relationships have far more ups in them than downs. Take a look back over the course of your entire relationship. How do the ups compare to the downs for you? Were the good times really good? How bad were the darkest days? Are you willing to experience them again if necessary?

How far are You Really Willing to Go to Make It Work?

You must be willing to do whatever it takes to make it work in most cases for that to happen. Your ex is likely to throw in a few pitfalls and tests along the way, if he or she is even willing to give it a go. Be prepared for them and ready to ace them with flying colors. Dont even think about letting her see you sweat. But the willingness goes even deeper than passing a few tests. You must be willing to make a few vital changes for the sake of your relationship. But you wont often find out what they are until the moment arrives. Just be prepared. Some of the changes may not be all that simple to make.

Most importantly, however, is your willingness to be the one to wait. This is often the most difficult, and most necessary, part of winning back your ex. Waiting for the right moment, though, makes all the difference in the world. I can help you understand when that moment is and help you come up with the ideal strategy to turn it into a prime opportunity.

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6 Strategic Moves You Need to Make to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

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Alls fair in love and war. Believe me, when love is on the skids, it certainly feels like war. We all know that the army with superior forces and sound strategies is the most certain of victors in any war. The same holds true when the war is for the heart of someone who has taken her heart back. These strategic moves are sure to improve your odds.

1) Give her space. It may sound counter-intuitive at the moment, but its important to give her a little breathing room to figure out what it is that she really wants. Give it to her.

2) Be absent from her life. Shell never realize how much you mean to her or how much she misses having you around if youre always there for her when she needs you. This is not the way to win her back. Its rewarding her by giving her all the best of you without requiring the same from her in return. Thats not how successful relationships work.

3) Make her come to you. Dont call, text, email, visit, etc. Dont go to her. Instead, wait. Then, make her come to you. Let her be the one who sees that breaking up was a mistake. Let her figure out just how much she really does miss having you in her life. Let her come to you.

4) Dont be overly eager. In fact, work very hard on your composure. Practice what youll say if you run into her. Work on the words, the phrases, and the overall message you want to send. Make sure she knows youre doing just fine without her in your life.

5) Show the world you havent fallen apart. Women like strong men, no matter what they tell you. It may be that you have a girl who enjoys your sensitive side, but thousands of years of history show that women are attracted to men of strength, especially in times of adversity. Dont fall apart. More importantly, dont let the word spread if you do fall apart after the initial breakup.

6) Stop pretending to be someone youre not in hopes of getting her back. Any ground you gain by pretending will be lost quickly once you begin dating again. You cant pretend forever. Shell eventually see through the exterior. If you want to make real, lasting changes, thats great. Dont pretend, however, that youve changed core things about yourself just for the sake of winning her back. It doesnt serve either of you in the end and can set you back even further in your efforts to win her heart all over again.

Come up with a plan before you make your next move, if you havent made on already. If youve already made a few mistakes trying to get her back, take this time to step back and come up with a strategy before making your next move. Remember these strategies to help you get her back as well.

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