First of all, we need some insight into what put a wedge between the two of you. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but nothing happened on a Tuesday that caused your break up. It was not a single episode or fight that caused the demise of your relationship, it was a culmination of things.
Heres a toughie, it was partially your fault. Yes, yours. I dont want you to take full blame, no one is ever 100% to blame. But you do need to accept your share. What did you do that led to the breakup?
Dont rush to your ex and start apologizing. You will apologize but not yet. Here are a couple ideas what you might be to blame for.
Ladies, you first. Is it possible you effeminized your ex? Did you hurt his ego? Were you too needy? Almost always one of these reasons are at the core.
Gentlemen, your next. What did you do or say that made your ex feel unappreciated or taken advantage of? Were you too needy? Women love a man with a sensitive side, but constantly being needy is a huge turn off for both sexes.
Now, you need to accept responsibility for your actions and or attitude. By simply identifying it, you can now change the behavior.
"Ive done this, so how do I get back my ex?"
Now you can call your ex. If they wont talk to you, hand write a letter. Agree with the separation first then let them know you have taken responsibility, and exactly what for, and apologize for it. Tell them you saw this coming, and it is for the best, wish them well in the future.
Do not initiate contact for a month, three weeks at the very least.
By following these steps, your ex will not understand your actions. The human mind is curious and most of the time your partner will contact you, as they now feel like you broke up with them. When they call, move slowly and deliberately to rebuild your love.
The get back my ex outline.
1. Take personal responsibility.
2. Send a hand written letter agreeing with the separation and apologizing.
3. Cease all contact.
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