Dangerous word...that word "should."
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a lot of damage in your life and keep you stuck completely in the past.
Maybe youve heard yourself say this before...
"This should have gone down in a very different way."
Truth is, it didnt go that way.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you arent fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didnt actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you cant accept the reality of the situation.
So what do we need to do? Come back to the present moment.
When your "should" lives in the future, you are limiting yourself to a very shallow way of seeing into a land that is completely unknown and foreign to you. "It should happen like this." And if it doesnt? Usually there is a feeling of being let down or disappointed in what actually did happen.
You have to keep coming back to the present moment.
We are all going to have incredibly painful times in our lives that are going to make us want to project an experience onto a life we really have real idea of whats going to happen. Thats ok in some ways, but the reality is you have to come back to living in the mystery of the present moment.
These dark times will always be there.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldnt have gone down any other way. q
And if you let go of the future, and come back to this moment?
You get to live in the present. You get to live in knowing that life is going to take care of you no matter what happens.
"Should" doesnt exist anymore.
No living in the past...because weve accepted it.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
Youre here.
Stay connected.
Live in a world of acceptance.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a lot of damage in your life and keep you stuck completely in the past.
Maybe youve heard yourself say this before...
"This should have gone down in a very different way."
Truth is, it didnt go that way.
When you stay in the land of should, you are stuck in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you arent fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didnt actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you cant accept the reality of the situation.
So what do we need to do? Come back to the present moment.
When your "should" lives in the future, you are limiting yourself to a very shallow way of seeing into a land that is completely unknown and foreign to you. "It should happen like this." And if it doesnt? Usually there is a feeling of being let down or disappointed in what actually did happen.
You have to keep coming back to the present moment.
We are all going to have incredibly painful times in our lives that are going to make us want to project an experience onto a life we really have real idea of whats going to happen. Thats ok in some ways, but the reality is you have to come back to living in the mystery of the present moment.
These dark times will always be there.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldnt have gone down any other way. q
And if you let go of the future, and come back to this moment?
You get to live in the present. You get to live in knowing that life is going to take care of you no matter what happens.
"Should" doesnt exist anymore.
No living in the past...because weve accepted it.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
Youre here.
Stay connected.
Live in a world of acceptance.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into these great Bible Verses or these Hope Quotes to get some motivation to move forward!
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