Three Reasons Its Highly Effective To Get Your Ex Back by Going No Contact

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Depending on how long youve been trying to get your ex back, or how many times youve tried and failed already, youve probably heard people talking about giving up the concerted efforts youve been making and going "no contact" with your ex.

At first glance that seems like a crazy plan! Right? The idea that you would be able to get your ex back by not trying to get her back sounds absolutely absurd. And yet, it works. In fact, it often works where everything else youve tried in the past has failed. Here are three reasons why.

1) Absence Does Make Hearts Fonder

Theres something about not being surrounded by memories, flooded by emotions, and constantly exposed to someone that makes it easier to look past the negative associations and see the positive. Once enough time has passed, the memories of arguments, fights, disagreements, and even petty annoyances fade. All thats left are the good memories and a sense of what she really does miss about you and your relationship.

2) Time Heals Old Wounds

Even if things ended badly between you and things were said that shouldnt have been, time has an amazing way of soothing wounds and healing broken hearts. Youll be amazed by the types of wounds that can be healed when enough time is allowed to pass. Your ex can forgive the little things as well as the big things -- even cheating. But, you have to be willing to allow the right amount of time to pass to allow that to happen. And, the bigger the grievance, the longer time will need to pass before shes truly had time to heal.

3) She Cant Understand What Shes Lost Until Its Truly Gone

Shell never understand what shes missing out on without you in her life if youre a constant presence in her life. Its as simple as that. Shes never going to take you back if she gets all the benefits of your presence, support, love, and friendship, without being required to return those things. Take a break. Step away. Dont answer when she calls. Then, wait. Wait for her to call you. Because one day shell realize what shes lost and be ready to call you.

There is a trick to make this work though. You have to take a hard line about it. Im not saying you need to go out of your way to avoid her forever, though its a good idea for a little while. You need to give her time and space. You need to wait long enough for her to start remembering the good and forgetting the bad. Most importantly, you need to give you both time to figure out what you want from the relationship and each other the second time around. Then, when the second chance arrives you need to take the time to make sure youre both on the same page about your expectations for the future.