Why Are You Trying so Hard to Get Your Ex Back

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The one thing most people feel immediately after an unexpected, and unwanted, breakup, is desperation to get your ex back. Its a common denominator that most people experience. Youre hurting. The breakup caused the pain. Ergo, getting back together with your ex will end the pain.

Right?

Not so fast!

Before you start pulling out maps and drawing up battle lines, its a good idea to take a moment to really consider whether getting your ex back is the right move to make in this situation. It may be your kneejerk reaction, but that doesnt mean its the best action to take. Here are a few questions you should ask yourself before you start making plans.

Why do You Want to Get Your Ex Back?

Its a completely and totally fair question to ask yourself. Its not about love. At least, it shouldnt be. Loving someone alone is not worth moving heaven and earth in order to get your ex back. You might believe youre soul mates, but why do you feel that way? What is it about your ex that makes this the one person youre meant to share your life with and that no other person will do?

Do You Know what You Really Want?

Have you thought about it before now? You may have been making plans for a future together, but could those plans change and create a happier future for you? Is the future youve been planning one that fills you with excitement? Is your ex the one person that fills you with excitement? Or, have you been so busy planning your life as part of a "we" that youve forgotten to make plans for the "me" in the equation? Its not a given that your ex isnt the one and that you arent meant to be together. But, you owe it to yourself to take enough time to figure out the future you want before you begin to make plans to get your ex back.

Are You Really Good Together?

The final question to ask yourself is the simplest, and often the most difficult. Are you good together? Do you bring out the best or the worst in each other? Is the world better when youre together or did you secretly long for those moments when your ex was busy doing other things?

The questions arent difficult, but the answers can make or break your plans to get your ex back. If, after answering these hard-hitting questions, youre sure your ex is the one and you want him back, then theres only one thing left to do: "Make it so." I can give you the tools you need to get your ex back. You just have to be willing to put them into action at the right time and place.

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Is It My Fault He Cheated On Me

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If you’ve watched the news lately you’ve probably noticed that there’s been quite a stir over who is at fault when men cheat. A prominent televangelist has suggested that part of the responsibility should be placed on the shoulder of the woman for not making the effort to overcome genetic predispositions.

While the “men are dogs” argument doesn’t fly in all corners of the Web-o-verse, it’s probably a good idea to sit back and speculate over whether there could be some truth in the idea.

Now, I’m not advocating that men cheat or that women blindly forgive men who cheat. I’m not even saying that it’s a woman’s fault her man cheats. I am not even saying that the most diligent efforts by women will prevent cheating completely.

I can definitely say that doing these two things will definitely help keep his attention focused firmly on you and make other woman almost invisible to him. Want to know what they are?

Get His Engine Running

Slip a reason for him to come home at night into his briefcase or lunchbox each day as he sets off for work. Whether it’s a snapshot, a steamy love note, or just a code word you make up together, give him a reason to come racing home after he punches out at work for the day.

And then?

Live up to the promise you made in the morning. No matter how many things happen during your day to drag you down, you MUST make good on that promise so that he’ll know what he’s likely to get each and every time you drop one of your lunchbox/briefcase hints.

Show Him Your Adoration

Among men who cheat, the overwhelming reason why has nothing to do with the physical appearance of the other woman. In fact, most men who cheat have said they do not find the other woman more attractive than their wives. She’s not thinner, leggier, bustier, and she doesn’t have a bigger butt (sorry Mix-A-Lot).

It’s not about looks at all. The real reason men cheat on their wives, and can’t really help themselves, despite the risks it involves has to do with one thing. She makes him feel adored, flattered, admired, and respected. She doesn’t roll her eyes at his corny jokes. She clings to his arms and laughs. She makes the first move. She shows interest. She goes after him and makes him feel like THE MAN. And THAT is his Kryptonite.

How do you beat this?

It may seem like a tall order, but if you work really hard and think back to the early days when you dated, you should remember all the things you used to tell him that you don’t tell him today. You brought out the best in him by showing him that you believed he was the best and he wants that feeling back. He’s trying to recapture that when he cheats. Give him that feeling at home – and give it to him often – and he’ll never have a single reason to stray.

These two things don’t require six spinning classes a day. They don’t require a second job. And, they don’t involve major personality changes. Most of these things are the sorts of things you did when you were first together and in love. Put them to work today and never worry about a cheating husband again. Is it your fault he cheated? No, but you CAN make a difference going forward.

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